Fear by Lachlan Cotter
These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Is fear holding you back from living your fullest life and being truly self expressed? Put yourself in the shoes of the you who’s already lived your dream and write out the answers to the following:
Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel?
Will the blunder matter in 10 years? Or 10 weeks? Or 10 days? Or 10 minutes?
Can you be happy being anything less than who you really are?
Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.
(Author: Lachlan Cotter)
Fear can hold me back from living life to the fullest. My greatest fears are of abandonment and rejection (which are probably related). The thought that how I react will make people who are important to me disapprove or leave can sometimes be overwhelming. The reality is that “present me” knows that this is an unfounded lie. It doesn’t mean that I don’t still suffer from these fears.
Fast forward 10 years
OK, I’m putting on my future goggles set for 10 years into the future where I am living the life I dreamed of. I have a successful career, my children are doing well for themselves and I am still married to the love of my life, Robert. I travel regularly for work and for pleasure and have a strong core group of friends who have been with me for many years now.
Exactly what is the career for me 10 years into the future? The lines are still fuzzy, but wherever I am working, I feel valued for my services. I am able to work in a culture where creative thinking is nurtured and inspired. It may be in a big city, or in Reno. That part is still undetermined. Overall, life will be good.
The important thing to note here is that the people I care about most in the world are all still there with me. Any fear I possess about abandonment is gone, and I am able to fully enjoy their presence without believing they always have one foot out of the door. They stay with me because they want to.
Lesson learned: stomp on fear
In order to achieve this dreamed of life, I must face my fears head on and throw them to the floor. If I let fear get involved in my decision process, I will become timid and stagnate. Being true to myself is the key to success. I am doing everything else possible to travel a successful path. By completing a higher education I shoved fear out of my way. Would I be the oldest person in class? Would I be accepted? WHO CARES! None of these fears have proven to negatively affect the outcome. I will graduate in December, walk with my class and be proud.