What is humility to you? Is it an “awe shucks” attitude where you take no credit for any of your accomplishments? To help me decide on a reasonable definition, I turned to the dictionary. Webster’s dictionary’s definition is the quality or state of being humble which did not help me at all. Fortunately it also lists several synonyms:demureness, down-to-earthness, humbleness, lowliness, meekness, modesty.
In yesterday’s building fierce loyalty in 28days post Shelly Kramer reminded me that in order to gain one’s loyalty, you have to earn it by being human, fallible and humble. Even superheros practice some form of humility in that they usually keep a secret identity so they can assimilate into society.
My personal voyage into humility
Today (February 7) is my daughter Avery’s 21st birthday. Avery is an amazing
girl woman who has achieved several life changing milestones including: her Bat Mitzvah, High School Graduation, and soon (May 2013) college graduation as well. She never ceases to amaze me with her poise and grace.
In my eyes, there is nothing more humbling than realizing that your children are now adults and that YOU are not immortal. How is she getting older without me also aging in the process? The reality is that she can’t and I subsequently continue to mature a little more every year!
Rather than being egocentric and worrying about my own mortality, I look at Avery and know that I had something to do with why she is so special. I didn’t tell everyone what a great mom I am. There are times when I think my parental skills lack discipline, but as Shelly so eloquently put it to me, the proof is in the pudding.
Maybe this is the same reason I have become a trusted editor to my friends and coworkers. People know that I am not full of crap and will not ever lie by my actions rather than by my resume.
lesson learned: I am enough
Back in my therapy days, I discovered my personal lie was that I am somehow not enough and unworthy (which incidentally I don’t consider being humble). As a result I try extra hard to please those around me. Through personal growth I realized that I am enough as I am and that my amazing children are proof of it.
What single thing has humbled you? How did you react? Share yourself to the world (and this blog) with your thoughts and stories,