Tenacity or Stupidity?

What does it mean to hold on to something whether it is ethereal or tangible no matter the outcome? Is it an admirable quality or one of selfishness or stupidity that causes us to continue our endeavors? When should we give up on our dreams?

In sales, it is crucial to remain loyal to your belief in yourself and whatever you may be selling. In leadership, you must believe in your abilities and those of your team. I believe a good descriptive word for this is tenacity which is defined by the OED as:


  • the quality or fact of being able to grip something firmly; grip: the sheer tenacity of the limpet
  • the quality or fact of being very determined; determination: you have to admire the tenacity of these two guys
  • the quality or fact of continuing to exist; persistence: the tenacity of certain myths within the historical record  Oxford English Dictionary

This morning I am writing this post from one of my usual Starbucks haunts. It is a great place to come and think, blog, do homework (oh yeah! I’m done with that one), meet with friends or clients, or simply escape for a moment.

On this gray and windy day, I sit patiently (well, as patiently as I am able to sit) at my favorite window seat to meet with a potential client. Maybe it is because of the time change this morning, or the fact that I showed up 5 minutes late (typical of me) that I sit alone at the table. Maybe she scheduled the appointment in order to shut me up yesterday and threw out my card as soon as I was not looking.

Cry me a river!

Does her motive really matter at all? Probably not. I can rationalize until the lobsters come home, but the outcome remains the same. She missed our scheduled meeting and did not call to tell me or reschedule = inconsiderate.

It would be easy to wallow in self-pity right now. Rather than crying to myself or to those around me, I decided to stay at Starbucks, drink my green tea and conjure a blog post. The time is no less valuable because the client did not show. It simply looks different.

Back to the tenacity thing…

I actually do have a point to this pathetic story. It is not meant merely to depress, but to illuminate the possibilities tenacity brings. This one missed appointment will not ruin my day, or confidence in my potential and/or goal. It won’t dissuade me from further contact to reschedule.

Whatever the cause, it is not something I take personally. It is just part of doing business. Sometimes events work out as planned, while others prove to be an opportunity for personal growth. Either way, it’s all good.

Do you believe in your own potential? If so, what are you doing to create your reality? If not, perhaps it is time to re-examine your goals. When things go wrong, always have a plan B (even if you make it up as you go). The difference between success and failure is subjective.

I understand my objectives and what it will take to achieve them. I hold on tenaciously to visions of my future until they can be are realized. Share your thoughts and stories about disappointment and how you turned it around to your advantage.

7 thoughts on “Tenacity or Stupidity?

    1. miriamgomberg says:

      Welcome Marla and thanks for stopping by. Tenacity is a difficult concept to grasp, and one I actually work on regularly. It is important to realize that you cannot be responsible for the actions of others. They are bumps in the road, but I do my best to get around them. Thanks again! Miriam


  1. bmcbride2302 says:

    I love how you translate obstacles into opportunities. The girl that missed the appointment as obstacles in herself that she’ll have to conquer. I remember not showing for one of my first ever appointments, and it was due in part to fear and in part to immaturity. Sounds like you have the foundation laid to take steps fearlessly towards your goals, she just doesn’t have that developed yet. She’ll get there if she wants it.


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      Welcome and thanks for your comment! It didn’t occur to me that she may be battling fear of some sort, but it makes perfect sense. We all have fears that can cripple if we let them. What is needed is the ability to continue forward through the fear and into new territory. Thanks again for stopping by! Miriam


  2. Pamela Morse says:

    Missing girl was there to teach patience. The greatest acheivment of all is equanimity…. more patience, more equanimity. Those who teach us patience are our biggest gifts, in ways we never consider. I have had so many and used to joke saying they were my special gift sent to teach me patience..but I was truly sardonic in saying that. At this point I am sure that the special ones who teach patience in the form of anger and irrationality control are the biggest teachers of all. So weird.


  3. miriamgomberg says:

    Pam, patience is one of those things I have little of. However, with age, everything seems to slow down and speed up at the same time which somehow makes me more patient as an outcome. It can be hard to see inconvenience as a gift, yet I understand how it can become one. Thanks for your insight. Miriam


  4. ElizOF says:

    Don’t give up. I love the word tenacity as it is important to business and life. I hope she had a good excuse for forgetting the meeting… It does happen to all of us. Glad to read another post from you Miriam. 😉


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