don’t do as I did

“A simpler and safer time (or so we say) when we were kids,” yada yada yada…Just one of the crap things we tell the little ones when we don’t want them following in our footsteps. If it was good enough for us, why not them? Is it unfair for parents to hold high expectations on kids?

life isn’t always fair

Honestly, fair has nothing to do with it. When I was a child, I experienced many lots of things I would not allow my own children to do. Was it a simpler time, or were we just plain old ignorant of the consequences? For the most part, I was a good girl growing up. I didn’t get in a lot of trouble or wreak much havoc around the city.

There are things I wont let my children do because they are unsafe. How I made it into adulthood is beyond me. I never wore a helmet while skiing or riding a bike, yet I impose these rules upon my kids. When I was young, we would gallivant around on our bikes barefoot with someone perched on

Sam playing it safe in all his cycling gear.
Sam playing it safe in all his cycling gear.

the handlebars. Geez! Can you imagine the looks that would get now?

Not only did I ski sans helmet, but I used ridiculously long skis and sometimes wore jeans on the slopes. EEK!!! It was way more important to look cool than be safe. Now, I like my pink helmet as it keeps my head warm on cold days. Who would have thunk it?

can you say over-indulgence?

Did my parents ever say no to me? Don’t get me wrong, my parents did a fab job raising me! Just look at the confident mermaid, zebra princess, Burlesque beauty I have become. It’s not like I had everything and anything my little heart desired, but let’s just say I was indulged to greatness.

I consider myself lucky that my own kids are not the least bit bratty. They learned the meaning of no. Like me, they are still learning to value money. Although, it is not about perfection.

never say uncle

A bad part of being over indulged was that I gave up on things easily when they seemed difficult. Rather than completing an education in my early 20’s, I ran off, got married (well not really ran off), and didn’t finish my degree until age 41. In the end, education was my responsibility. I don’t regret my life, but I don’t want my kids doing the same as me in that respect.

I played piano until age 12 when I promptly quit. It was boring and I didn’t want to practice. Blah, blah… Both my kids played an instrument in school. They may not be brilliant musicians but at least they both remember how to read music whereas I do not.

do as I do now

Rather than focusing on a lack of education, I showed my kids how important it is to complete it and what kind of work it takes to do it. Seeing I want them to wear helmets when riding a bike or skiing, I wear one myself. It may have been a more simple time, but times change, and so do I.

What I once thought was perfectly fine, may not be. Advances in technology, research, safety, or whatever else you can think of continue at a dizzying pace.

As a kid, I didn’t have a personal phone, never mind a cell phone. Computers?? Yeah right. Let’s not even get started on that one. I am completely positive there will be things I let them do that will seem insane when they are parents. It is the way of the world.

Can you think of anything you did that you would never ever ever let your kids do? I’m sure there is something. Go ahead and share them.

This post was inspired by the weekly writing prompt from Mama Kat, ” Talk about something you were allowed to do as a child that you will not allow your child to do. “

4 thoughts on “don’t do as I did

  1. Dyanne @ I Want Backsies says:

    I was SO EXCITED when I was in high school and got a phone in my bedroom! It wasn’t even a princess phone, just a big ol’ boxy phone (it was light blue, though). Didn’t have my own number, although I had a few friends who had their own line), and anyone could have picked up the receiver in another part of the house and listened in, but I didn’t care. Now my kids have had cell phones since they were in about 5th grade and have iphones now.


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      I remember getting a phone in my room too. It was a teen line that I shared with my younger sister. Couldn’t call long distance. It had an extra long cord so that I could walk around my room with it. I don’t think my kids even know what a telephone cord looks like. Ha.


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      Sorry it took me so long to reply Lisa. It has been back less than a week. It seems I have a hacker who loves to turn my blog into porn. Seriously????? Now that I am working, I have to get back to the work life balance thing so that I post regularly. It would help if the hackers left me alone too. M (not that I am bitter)


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