love and candy?

The barfiest holiday of the year is upon us. I don’t see what the big deal is about Valentine’s day. Maybe I am bitter (probably) or unromantic (hardly. I’m actually a hopeless romantic), but there is something about getting chalky heart shaped candy that really turns me off.

love me when my faee is covered with green goo
love me when my face is covered with green goo

is it love?

What’s love got to do with candy and flowers? Eat candy, want more, keep eating, gain weight. That doesn’t sound lovely to me. Flowers brings allergies and dried up leaves petals and stuff that falls off and makes a mess.

Isn’t Valentine’s day some sort of religious holiday anyway? Being Jewish, I’m pretty sure we don’t do the whole saint thing. Does it mean I am not loved if I don’t have a valentine? Eek! My head is spinning.

People scurry about trying to find the perfect gift for loved ones so that they don’t look like total jerks. Flowers, candy, perfume, lingerie, sappy greeting cards, stuffed animals and the like are snatched off store aisles. As a retailer, I get it. As a woman, I don’t understand.

brainwashing anyone?

Hey! It’s pop culture baby. Brainwashing may not actually be necessary. Who doesn’t love getting gifts? Give me gifts any day of the week and I become giddy with excitement. Present me with a stupid card or box of conversation hearts and I want to gag.

Back in my bridal days, there were two huge influxes of brides; Christmas and Valentine’s Day. Really?? How unoriginal! I guess it is romantic for some but I want to be swept off my feet just because it is Wednesday.

If love is not authentically in your heart, don’t bother. You aren’t fooling anyone but yourself. Tell me you love me because you do, not because someone on TV told you to. I don’t need flowers to get the point across.

back to the hopeless romantic part

Right now, you are probably thinking I am the meanest person ever. Really, I’m not mean so much as a realist. I believe in love and the power it can have over us.

i am lovable and deserving of love. I want to be loved and to love in return. It just doesn’t come with chocolate. It is more of a state of being.

what I think love is

  • Love is doing something you don’t like just because it makes someone else happy.
  • Love is accepting others for who they really are without trying to change them
  • Love is thinking I am beautiful when my face is covered in green goo
  • Love is laughing at somoeone’s silly jokes even though you’ve heard them a million times before.
  • Love is accepting yourself with all your bumps and bruises.
  • Love is kindness or being helpful without anyone asking it of you
  • Love is striving to do good just because it is the right thing to do.

I’m sure there are lots of other things that denote love. How many can you think of that have nothing to do with crap you give or get on valentine’s day?

What is your opinion about love and Valentine’s day? Like me, do you find it utter bullshit or are you part of the machine? By the way, I like redhots way better than conversation hearts. They taste way better and don’t leave a chalky nasty taste in my mouth. Just sayin’

This post was inspired by Mama Kat’s weekly writing prompt, 2.) A blog post inspired by the word: love




4 thoughts on “love and candy?

  1. Lisa @ The Meaning of Me says:

    We do a little bit of Valentine’s day, but mostly for our daughter, because my Mom always did it for us and I guess I just carried it over. We’re in the haters club, I guess, because the Hub and I don’t understand why people need a designated day to show how they feel. Do we grab cards? Yes. But we do that all the time, so it’s really just no different. I love your list and couldn’t agree more. Don’t buy me a box of chocolate just because it’s Valentine’s day. A) my butt doesn’t need any more help and B) buy me chocolate just because it’s Tuesday and I’m cranky. But make my coffee or bring me my hot pillow for my aching joints? That’s love.


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      I totally did Valentine’s day when the kids were young as well. My husband and I aren’t much for Hallmark holidays and now that they are older we let it drop off a cliff. It is hard because I’m surrounded by revelry at work. I guess it’s kinda like Christmas to me. It just is.


  2. Kat says:

    I agree completely that love is way more than just a red and pink holiday. It wasn’t until I had kids that I started really loving vday because it gives me an excuse to decorate everything in pink. My husband and I have never really done anything to celebrate it, but I definitely have fun with it now as a mom.


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      Red and pink look great together! I look for any excuse possible to wear both/either color. I’m glad there are other couples out there who don’t trip over each other with Valentine’s festivities.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s